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The Muslim Way of Speaking: Not Speaking from the Lower-self and from Personal Desires

Contents
  1. Introduction
  2. The Importance of the Muslim Way of Speaking
  3. Praising the Might of Allah
  4. Remembering Allah Frequently
  5. The Aspects of the Muslim Way of Speaking
  6. Calling on Allah Through His Beautiful Names
  7. Speaking in the Knowledge that Allah is with You at Every Moment
  8. Speaking So as Not to Associate Others with Allah
  9. Speaking So as to Praise and Exalt Allah
  10. Speaking in the Knowledge of One's Helplessness in the Face of Allah
  11. Speaking in the Knowledge that Tasks are Performed Through Allah's Will
  12. Employing the Qur'an as a Guide in Speech
  13. Speaking in the Knowledge of the Certainty of Fate and of the Truth that There is Good in All Things
  14. Speaking Through Trust in Allah
  15. Speaking with Awareness that the Life of the World is Transitory
  16. Showing Concern in Speech for the Lawful and the Unlawful
  17. Avoiding the Style of Speech Influenced by Satan and Taking Refuge from Satan in Allah
  18. Enjoining What is Right and Forbidding What is Wrong
  19. Speaking with Wisdom
  20. Speaking in a Sincere Manner
  21. Speaking the Truth
  22. Speaking Sensibly and Logically
  23. Giving Good Tidings
  24. Speaking So as to Arouse Joy and Enthusiasm
  25. Saying What is Best
  26. Not Speaking from the Lower-self and from Personal Desires
  27. Speaking in a Measured, Courteous and Respectful Manner
  28. Speaking in a Humble Manner
  29. Speaking with Tolerance and Forgiveness
  30. Consulting
  31. Saying It is as Allah Wills the Re is No Strength but in Allah
  32. Speaking Well with One's Parents
  33. Not Talking Behind Others' Backs or Gossiping
  34. Avoiding Suspicion and Slander
  35. Not Speaking in a Mocking Manner
  36. Avoiding Speaking Out of Covetousness and Envy
  37. Not Making Empty and Trivial Statements
  38. Not Interrupting and Speaking Calmly
  39. Employing a Style of Speech Appropriate to the Level of Knowledge of the Person Addressed
  40. Avoiding Speaking Hypocritically
  41. Avoiding a Way of Speech Which Gives Rise to Doubts
  42. Avoiding a Probing and Prying Speech
  43. Avoiding Statements that Lead to Evil
  44. Avoiding Obfuscation
  45. Not Holding Secret Meetings
  46. Speaking So as to Defend and to Support Our Prophets a as
  47. Conclusion

Another superior moral characteristic reflected in the speech of the faithful is that they avoid speaking on behalf of their selves and their desires. Believers know that the lower self continually seeks to incite them to behavior of which Allah will not approve. For this reason, they speak not in the way their lower-selves suggest, but in the way inspired by their consciences. In the Qur'an, the behavior of the Prophet Yusuf is offered as an example of this aspect of the morality of the faithful. When he was falsely accused, and as a result imprisoned for years in a dark dungeon, the Prophet Yusuf refrained from defending himself, but admitted that the lower-self would always lead people into evil:

I do not say my self was free from blame. The [lower] self indeed commands to evil acts–except f or those my Lord has mercy on. My Lord, He is Forgiving, Merciful.

Surah Yusuf: 53

Speaking from one's desires is that which is done without taking into consideration the approval of Allah, and instead thinking selfishly only of one's own wishes. In communities which do not live by the values of the Qur'an, people speak without thinking at all; they act on the spur of the moment and out of the feelings that arise from within them. For example, when a person makes a mistake, another may succumb quickly to rage, and speaking out of this rage, uses a course, critical and inconsiderate language, whereas one who hopes for the approval of Allah ought to use a way of speaking which deals with the mistake with forgiveness, which explains the mistake to the other person, and shows the way to correct it. In that case, the faithful straight away employ their consciences and say only whatever is most appropriate in accordance with the morality explained in the Qur'an.