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The Muslim Way of Speaking: Not Holding Secret Meetings

Contents
  1. Introduction
  2. The Importance of the Muslim Way of Speaking
  3. Praising the Might of Allah
  4. Remembering Allah Frequently
  5. The Aspects of the Muslim Way of Speaking
  6. Calling on Allah Through His Beautiful Names
  7. Speaking in the Knowledge that Allah is with You at Every Moment
  8. Speaking So as Not to Associate Others with Allah
  9. Speaking So as to Praise and Exalt Allah
  10. Speaking in the Knowledge of One's Helplessness in the Face of Allah
  11. Speaking in the Knowledge that Tasks are Performed Through Allah's Will
  12. Employing the Qur'an as a Guide in Speech
  13. Speaking in the Knowledge of the Certainty of Fate and of the Truth that There is Good in All Things
  14. Speaking Through Trust in Allah
  15. Speaking with Awareness that the Life of the World is Transitory
  16. Showing Concern in Speech for the Lawful and the Unlawful
  17. Avoiding the Style of Speech Influenced by Satan and Taking Refuge from Satan in Allah
  18. Enjoining What is Right and Forbidding What is Wrong
  19. Speaking with Wisdom
  20. Speaking in a Sincere Manner
  21. Speaking the Truth
  22. Speaking Sensibly and Logically
  23. Giving Good Tidings
  24. Speaking So as to Arouse Joy and Enthusiasm
  25. Saying What is Best
  26. Not Speaking from the Lower-self and from Personal Desires
  27. Speaking in a Measured, Courteous and Respectful Manner
  28. Speaking in a Humble Manner
  29. Speaking with Tolerance and Forgiveness
  30. Consulting
  31. Saying It is as Allah Wills the Re is No Strength but in Allah
  32. Speaking Well with One's Parents
  33. Not Talking Behind Others' Backs or Gossiping
  34. Avoiding Suspicion and Slander
  35. Not Speaking in a Mocking Manner
  36. Avoiding Speaking Out of Covetousness and Envy
  37. Not Making Empty and Trivial Statements
  38. Not Interrupting and Speaking Calmly
  39. Employing a Style of Speech Appropriate to the Level of Knowledge of the Person Addressed
  40. Avoiding Speaking Hypocritically
  41. Avoiding a Way of Speech Which Gives Rise to Doubts
  42. Avoiding a Probing and Prying Speech
  43. Avoiding Statements that Lead to Evil
  44. Avoiding Obfuscation
  45. Not Holding Secret Meetings
  46. Speaking So as to Defend and to Support Our Prophets a as
  47. Conclusion

In the Qur'an, Allah points out that most secret conversations are not intended for any good, with the followings verse:

"There is no good in much of their secret talk, except in the case of those who enjoin charity, or what is right, or putting things right between people. If anyone does that, seeking the pleasure of Allah, We will give him an immense reward."

Surat an-Nisa': 114

According to this verse, so long as they are not carried out for sincere purposes, such as leading people towards good, or establishing peace among them, secret meetings are of no benefit to anyone. Satan regards such situations as prime opportunities for deceiving people, whereby he tries to draw them into a way of speaking opposed to Allah. That that which is said at secret meetings is done so under the influence of Satan is pointed out in the following verse of the Qur'an:

"Conferring in secret is from Satan, to cause grief to those who believe; but it cannot harm them at all, unless by Allah's permission. So let the believers put their trust in Allah."

Surat al-Mujadala: 10

Because of this, Allah warns people and advises them of what to avoid when they find themselves involved in secret meetings:

You who believe! When you confer together secretly, do not do so in wrongdoing and enmity and disobedience to the Messenger; rather confer together in goodness and through a sense of duty. Heed Allah–Him to Whom you will be gathered.

Surat al-Mujadala: 9

The truth which all need to know is that, while talking in secret we are in the presence of Allah. Words believed to be secret are actually spoken in the presence of Allah. Though they think where were none by themselves privy to their conversation, we are informed that they were not alone:

Do you not see that Allah knows what is in the heavens and on the earth? Three men cannot confer together secretly without Him being the fourth of them, or five without Him being the sixth of them, or fewer than that or more without Him being with them wherever they are. Then He will inform them on the Day of Rising of what they did. Allah has knowledge of all things.

Surat al-Mujadala: 7

Allah hears all that is said in secret meetings. But, those who fail to take this into account inaccurately presume that it is sufficient to keep their conversations secret from other people.

Many examples are given in the Qur'an of those habitual to secret conversations. These examples all show us that, as we are told in the following verses, secret conversations are not for any good:

We know how they listen when they listen to you, and when they confer together secretly, and when the wrongdoers say,

"You are only following a man who is bewitched."

Surat alIsra': 47

Their hearts are distracted. Those who do wrong confer together secretly, saying, "Is this man anything but a human being like yourselves? Do you succumb to magic with your eyes wide open?" Say:

"My Lord knows what is said in heaven and earth. He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing."

Surat al-Anbiya: 3-4

Do you not see those who were forbidden to confer together secretly returning to the very thing they were forbidden to do, and conferring together secretly in wrongdoing and enmity and disobedience to the Messenger? And when they come to you they greet you with words Allah has never used in greeting you, and say to themselves "Why does Allah not punish us for what we say?" Hell will be enough for them! They will roast in it. What an evil destination.

Surat al-Mujadala: 8

When they meet those who believe, they say, "We believe." But when they go apart with one another, they say, "Why do you speak to them about what Allah has disclosed to you, so they can use it as an argument against you before your Lord? Will you not use your intellect?" Do they not know that Allah knows what they keep secret and what they make public?

Surat alBaqara: 76-77

Musa said to them, "Woe to you! Do not fabricate lies against Allah or He will annihilate you with His punishment.

Fabricators of lies are bound to fail.

" They argued among themselves about the matter and had a secret conference. They said, "These two magicians desire by their magic to expel you from your land and abolish your most excellent way of life."

Surah Ta Ha: 61-63

All these examples given in the Qur'an should show people that there is no good in secret meetings, and that they should avoid them. In these examples is also indicated how this way of speaking is insincere and contrary to the Qur'an. Thus, the faithful are those who heed these warnings and avoid secret conversations. Wherever they are or whoever they may be talking with, they speak in a way which conforms to the Qur'an, they follow the path of Allah and our Prophet, and they summon others to the morality of the Qur'an. Because of this, they have no need of secret conversations.

In contrast to the faithful, insincere people feel a need to conceal their deviousness. Even if for some reason a believer finds himself in their company, for reasons beyond his control, he will certainly recognize the evils of their conversation, never going along with them, but rather trying to draw those around him into virtue.